Not buying it: Month One.
Here’s a word that makes you super popular in the fashion blogging world: Budgeting.
Sexy, right? I haven’t said anything here because I didn’t want to jinx myself, but I just finished my first month of tracking my expenses.
I feel great. In July, I wrote This Scarcity Mentality Can Go Fuck Itself, & at the time, I was reminding myself to appreciate the good things in life that don’t involve having a lot of money. Now, I realize it was also a first attempt at writing some financial goals. At the time, lots of those felt impossible, but at this moment, I feel like I will be able to get there. I don’t mean tomorrow or anything, but someday.
This is not a shopping blog.
I’ve always said this. Insofar as fashion is expression, I like looking at and talking about my clothes & what others wear. It’s never been a goal to get my readers to buy the things I’ve bought, which is probably why no one offers me a lot of free stuff to wear and review.
I feel more strongly than ever that this can’t be a shopping blog. I haven’t actually been doing much shopping. But it’s more than that – it’s more important to be financially secure than it is to buy your way into feeling trendy or beautiful or happy. I wonder about & feel complicit in ways that ladyblogging extends the kind of “Third Shift” that Naomi Wolf wrote in The Beauty Myth. Shift one: work outside the home. Shift two: housework. Shift three: spending $$$ and time labouring in the pursuit of conventional beauty. Shift four?: documenting your appearance, photographing it as professionally as possible, putting it on the internet, & then promoting and branding the shit out of it.
I know that there is something more complex and rewarding happening, or so many of us wouldn’t do it. For one thing, femme labour for me is often grounding & affirming, not alienating. But still, I want to notice when & how capitalism works alongside those practices.
Everyone ever will tell you that if you want to have a popular blog you have to post a lot of original photos of cute things. That isn’t free. But this format also makes it so, so hard to get people to pay attention to text-heavy posts about intangible things – you know, like ideas. Values. Feelings.
& I want to write about that stuff, so I am going to. What are you anti-capitalist, poor, broke, or money-savvy femmes sayin?